This month marks 20 years since the Srebrenica Massacre, the genocide committed in southeastern Europe. It happened during the Bosnian War, one of the deadliest modern wars and one that often gets overlooked. I know and worked with a lot of former Yugoslavians–Bosnians, Croatians, and Montenegrins. And they all have one thing in common: that unbroken thousand mile stare that has seen some messed up shit. I spent a weekend one summer with a Yugoslavian family just outside of Detroit. It was an unexpected trip, one of the strangest of my life, but it really gave me a look into a broken culture I knew little about. I wrote about that trip 7 years ago, which seems like another lifetime.